As this week draws to a close, I reflect back on the two funerals/celebration of life that I attended this past weekend.
One, a cousin and the other, my friend’s son. Both gone many decades sooner than we would have expected. There were so many fond remembrances shared by friends and family and of course, underneath It all, a deep sadness for the lives cut short and the hearts that didn’t get to say goodbye.
It is expected that the pain will lessen with time, but the time frame is unknown. The mourning process is an individual thing and when mourning seems fulfilled, there will be a familiar sound, song, taste or scent that will trigger a memory and the pain or the joy will be right there once again. But with each time, a little more healing happens and perhaps the duration is not as long as before… perhaps.
I’ve heard it said that when you experience grief from the loss of someone special, it is the price you pay for loving them and enjoying their presence in your life. And the grief can be a reminder of the joy that was once there.
The Bible also has much to say about those who mourn or experience the grief of loss. In particular, Psalm 34:18. “The Lord is close to the broken-hearted: He rescues those whose spirits are crushed.” We quite literally have a God who draws close to us as we grieve. Have you asked God for his comfort in your time of loss?
God also does something special when we pray to him about our grief and thank him for all He has done in our lives. We read in Philippians 4:7 “Then you will experience God’s peace which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” Countless times I have had to rely heavily on these passages and it is my hope that those who may be mourning today will ask God to draw near to them and also receive His peace that surpasses all understanding.